We were both 22 years old and madly in love on the day we married and like most young people, we thought that we knew everything there was to know. Today we are smarter, more experienced, more grateful and more in love.
At the risk of being redundant, repeating myself, being redundant and repeating myself, I can tell you why “I love her more today than yesterday” (I feel a song coming on). My answer is simple and it all comes down to one word: gratitude.
Ask couples who have been married a long time, or at least as long as we have, what the key to a happy marriage is and you will get a variety of answers. “Respect each other”, “Never go to bed angry”, “Always be friends”, etc., etc.. But I believe that my answer trumps all of those answers.
When you are truly grateful that your mate is in your life, you will respect each other, not go to bed angry and will always be friends. However, feeling grateful is not enough. You must also express it to that person because feeling grateful and not telling someone is like buying someone a gift and never giving it to them.
Actually, the real gift is feeling grateful. It is a tremendous feeling in your heart to experience gratitude, real true gratitude. At least it is for me and I get to feel it several times today.
The older I get and the longer we are together, the more gratitude, the more grateful I become to have this extraordinary woman to share my life with.
I could go on and on. Her days are filled with caring about me, our family and our world of friends. She is selfless, loving, considerate and so much more. She is my great companion and there is no one else that I would rather spend time with then her.
My experience of being married to her has taught me that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and in my eyes she is more beautiful today than ever before.
To me, that feeling of ever increasing gratitude is what makes me feel more and more in love with her everyday that we are together. That is why I can say that “ love her more today than yesterday, but not as much as tomorrow.” (Thank you for those lyrics Stevie Wonder.)
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